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Apa yang menyemangati anak-anak untuk belajar dan membuat remaja tidak menyerah untuk hidup? Saya kira jawabannya adalah janji-janji manis usia dewasa. Masa kanak-kanak adalah soal distraksi, soal ketiadaan batasan antara benar dan salah, lalu masa remaja adalah masa penuh perubahan drastis yang mengguncang. Keduanya berat, tapi kita selalu punya masa dewasa untuk dinantikan. Bagi anak-anak, masa dewasa adalah masa penuh kebebasan. Bagi remaja masa dewasa adalah masa pengakuan Sayangnya, bagi orang dewasa tidak demikian. Menamatkan usia belasan beberapa tahun yang lalu, saya sangat siap untuk menyongsong keindahan yang selama ini orang bicarakan. Begitu masuk dalam apa yang masyarakat kategorikan sebagai dewasa, sisi kelam kehidupan yang tidak pernah diceritakan pada saya ketika lebih muda justru muncul lebih dulu. Dua tiga tahun belakangan ada banyak sekali kematian, ada bencana, ada masalah dan ada kekalutan. Dalam semua itu, saya tidak lagi bisa memalingkan wajah, angkat tangan, d

A Perfect Date

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Though relationship history would be the last thing people ask when demanding my update, fate has generously put me through several dates that made me feel good about myself. It ranges from going to museums or galleries to cooking dinner together. Of course not all of them are perfect but for me, the perfect one always involves inexhaustible conversation in a quiet place. I tend to fall for people's minds but is not so good at palm or eye reading. Listening to what they say, thus, is my go-to way. I discover it in my first year of college. We probably need to highlight the word discover in this blog, as that is my favorite way of learning and developing. I listen to no advice, even from the people I respected the most. I hate self-help books for their insensitivity to context. I despise tutorials for mistakes are an eminent part of it and I don't enjoy making mistakes. On the contrary, there is no harm in discovery. The mistake you unveil yourself is not a mistake, it is a disc

Too Much Love Will Kill You

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I guess I need to lay a new meaning towards one of Queen's legendary pieces: Too Much Love will Kill You. Until a moment ago, I understood it as a song about the torture one would certainly experience when committing an affair. In bahasa we have a saying about it: bermain api  (playing with fire). Playing with fire is undeniably exciting. It makes you feel powerful. But as it dances with your lust and ego, it will quickly ended up being out of control. Wildfire do nothing but burn everything down to ashes, the villain and the victim commensurately. Good deed, for men and women has always been defined as faithfulness to one lover. Too much love will kill you (and everyone you love, Freddy might continue). Yesterday, I watched The Bridges of Maddison County. Coincidently, it was also a film about disloyalty. In a way, this defends, if not romanticizes, adultery. It served the point of view of a middle aged housewife who has been displaced from her life for years in a rural household